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GHOSTING! It’s not just for Tinder

  • Adrian Grundy
  • Monday, February 11, 2019

How ‘GHOSTING” is affecting the job market.

Out there In the crazy dating world (a world I have been out of for some time), ‘ghosting’ is a term for when a person cuts off all communication with someone they are dating with no warning.

Shocking I know, but let’s be real, we have all done it in one form or another. We are now seeing this ‘ghosting’ trend entering the world of recruitment when applicants are in the process of interviewing for a position and then fall off the face of the Earth without any reasoning or explanation.

Often in the close knit sector of Early Years Education everyone knows everyone and many hiring managers talk and have great relationships with recruiters and let me tell you ghosting is getting many people blacklisted from companies. Ghosting for whatever reason is unprofessional and no one wants to work with someone who is a ‘Ghoster’.

As a leading recruiter I speak with thousands of people every month. Recruiters like me are committed to delivering an excellent service to both their clients and candidates and build our personal brands on it. In my opinion, this is the very essence of my job as a recruiter, RELATIONSHIPS.

Unfortunately, not every candidate see’s us recruiters in the same light and this is where we hit a dead end. The following scenarios are a few examples of‘’Ghosting’’ I have experienced.

1. The candidate has applied for the job, I reached out to them and tried to learn all I could about their wants and needs in regards to salary, location, company and position.

It turns out after having a in depth discussion that the position the candidate applied for, wasn't suited to them based on their wants and needs so I suggest another position. All is agreed and a time set to follow up with a phone call tomorrow.

Heartbreakingly - I ring the candidate the next day as scheduled and the Ghosting began!

Whatever reason you have for not being interested, we will understand. Just not answering calls and not communicating is childish and unprofessional.

2. You decided to proceed with the job - however, in the process you happened to receive an offer for another job and do not tell me. You disappear on me - The Ghosting Begins To any recruiter, not just myself - this can comes across as unprofessional. It has not only annoyed my client, it has affected my relationship with them. As I do not know why you began Ghosting, I cannot advise my client on anything but the truth and that doesnt look great. One thing you dont realise is if you ever apply directly to them they will know that you ghosted me and messed them around before and trust me they wont be meeting you.

3. You’ve done the interview - Didn’t like it & won’t answer your phone - "Ghosting” If you experienced any issues or problems before or during the interview - let me (your recruiter) know about it. I have the ability to call up the hiring manager and because we have strong relationships with our clients they are open to hearing about what is needed in order to help you get on board but how can I know if you ghost me?

4. You’ve received an offer (YAS Happy Days) but, for whatever reason, you have decided not to accept & no longer answer emails and phone calls - GHOSTING!

We have come a long way together you and I, we’ve built a good relationship, I and my client should now know what it is you are looking for. It would be fair to say that I have devoted quite some time to you and only you and today it is heartbreaking when you begin to Ghost me.

Why disappear? Why not let me know what needs to be done, is there something I could have helped with? I will never know. Did you want more money? Did you only want to work certain hours? If you communicate with me I can negotiate on your behalf. Don’t just give up without knowing what could have been.

What now will happen is my client and my company will refuse to work with you in the future and I guarantee you in a few months when you are back on the job boards looking for a job again you will see a job that looks perfect for you and guess who is recruiting for it? ME ! and as soon as you apply I will see your name an run for the hills. Why would I or any recruiter invest time in someone who ‘Ghosts” them.

The long and the short of it is that at any stage of the game you ghost your recruiter the makes the recruiter and the company they work for look unprofessional to their client and they are seen in a less attractive light!

Let’s be clear, everyone will choose the best option for themselves, and as adults both sides will understand the others decision, so don’t be afraid to tell the truth to your recruiter, if they decided to not understand you at least you did the right thing and you close a door in the best way possible.

Create a relationship with your recruiter, let them know exactly what you want and need. If they don't have what your looking for right now they will know for when it does come up and I bet you will be the first person they call.